From a female blog reader:
I met a guy November last year and we started dating, he stays in Abuja and I stay in lagos. We hardly see all the time because of the distance and he is always busy, he is an architect, but we see once in a long while.
When we met, things were alright and he made effort to keep in touch every time of the day, lately he stops calling, if I call he won’t pick or call back, may just send a message that he is in a meeting, even at night. I just don’t understand. I tried talking to him about it but he keeps saying I should understand that he is busy and not doubt him. He doesn’t even pay attention to my complains, we planned to see next week but I’m just tired of everything, I’ve tried ignoring him and moving on but it’s difficult for me, when I stopped calling he started calling but not as much as he used to. He tells me he loves and misses me and can’t wait for us to see, that we need to talk seriously and straighten things out and can’t do that over the phone, i’m just fed up with everything, I never planned on going into a long distance relationship because it doesn’t work well for me, this just happened and I’ve told him about it, whenever I tell him I’m tired, he keeps telling me that I should understand that it’s the work he is doing that’s taking all his time, and he is thinking of a solution to the distance, but I have developed this feeling that it’s someone else preoccupying his mind there. I’m a very paranoid person and I don’t like stress. When I mentioned how I feel to him, he said he is surprised about the way I think, for the past 2 days, he has made effort to call, I don’t know if I should fight my emotions and move on or wait till I see him so we can ‘straighten’ things out as he said, but if we see, moving on might be a bit more difficult for me. I normally advice people on matters of the heart, but in my case, I just need advice from an external source because I’m so confused.