From a female blog reader:
I met my fiancé in my first year in uni. I had a massive crush on him. As time passed we became close friends. I knew he didn’t like me in that way so I killed my feelings. Us spending a lot of time together developed into an intimate relationship and he took my virginity. At this point I didn’t have feelings for him anymore. We weren’t dating but we were together. We’d go on dates and trips and stuff. When we finished school we started a business which has grown so much. I’ve always had my feelings in check cos I didn’t want to fall for him again and not end up with him especially since I didn’t know how he felt about me. Also I never got a chance to meet other guys to date cos we were always together. 3 years ago he asked me out we started dating officially. I thought now that we were official I wouldn’t be scared to have feelings for him again but I can’t seem to. In my head we are just friends. He proposed to me last yesterday and I accepted. Will I grow to love him? Can I spend the rest of my life with someone I don’t love? I’m 28 so I really don’t have time to meet someone afresh and fall in love + I’ve built my life and riches with this guy leaving him will be insane. I need urgent advice.